Reflection for 2023: A Guided Reflection Exercise

December 21, 2023

Reflection for 2023: A Guided Reflection Exercise

As we approach the end of the year, amidst the hustle and bustle of holiday festivities, it's essential to take a moment to pause, to breathe, and to reflect. In the chaos of life, finding the time and space for self-reflection can be a powerful way to recharge and set the stage for a more intentional and fulfilling year ahead. So, in this moment right here, right now, I invite you to give yourself permission to rest and reflect over the holiday season.

Creating space, both mentally and physically, is crucial for personal growth and positive change. Without it, we may find ourselves stuck in old patterns and unable to embrace the transformation that a new year offers. To support you in this reflective process, I want to share a beautiful reflection tool that I personally use—a ritual I call Love, Long, Loathe, Lean In, Let Go.

Let me show you how to do it. 

The Love, Long, Loathe, Lean In, Let Go Reflection Ritual

Here is a step-by-step on how you can take part in this guided reflection exercise. 

To make this reflection exercise as accessible as possible, I've created a FREE template for you, which you can download. 


So, let's dive into the process and discover how this simple yet profound reflection ritual can be a guiding light for your journey into 2023.

Step 1 Create the Right Atmosphere:

Begin by finding a quiet and comfortable space, preferably your favourite reflective spot. Grab your favourite drink, creating an environment that encourages a sense of calm and introspection.

Step 2 Set Up Your Reflection Tool:

Draw five columns down a page, or use the provided template. Label each column with the following headings: Love, Long, Loathe, Let Go, Lean In.

Step 3 Reflect on Love:

Start with the "Love" column. Ask yourself: What have I loved in the year that was? Reflect on the positive moments, achievements, and experiences that brought you joy and fulfilment.

Step 4 Explore Long:

Move on to the "Long" column. Consider what you have longed for throughout the year. These could be unfulfilled desires, aspirations, or dreams that have been lingering in the background.

Step 5 Confront Loathe:

In the "Loathe" column, confront the challenges, disappointments, or aspects of the year that you disliked. Acknowledge them, as this recognition is a crucial step towards growth.

Step 6 Identify Let Go:

Shift your focus to the "Let Go" column. Reflect on what you want to release and leave behind as you transition into the new year. Letting go can be a powerful act of self-liberation.

Step 7 Embrace Lean In:

Lastly, in the "Lean In" column, identify what you want to lean into more in the upcoming year. This could be personal or professional growth areas, relationships, or activities that align with your values and goals.

Step 8 Highlight and Reflect:

After completing the reflection exercise, highlight a couple of keywords in each column. Leave the list to marinate, allowing yourself to come back to it with a fresh perspective after a few weeks. This contemplative period is essential for gaining insights and planning for the new year.

Final thoughts 

As you sit with your reflections, you'll find that this simple yet profound exercise provides a solid foundation for shaping a more intentional and purposeful year ahead. By acknowledging the highs and lows, the desires and disappointments, you gain valuable insights into your own journey.

Remember, this reflection ritual is a personal and evolving process. Save this post for later, and revisit it whenever you feel the need to reflect. The journey into the new year becomes more meaningful when rooted in self-awareness and guided by intentional choices.

And, if you're ready to reclaim your energy and spark in the year ahead, feel free to reach out and let's chat about how I can support you on your journey towards a more vibrant and fulfilling life.