I’ve achieved something that I never dreamt of and it’s come off the back of experimentation and intentionally adapting. Off the back of being true to who I am and practicing what I preach and teach. Allow me the indulgence of sharing in the hope that it might inspire you to experiment your way to flourishing.
It’s 3pm on a Friday and I find myself staring out the window from my bed. The sun streams in and a moment later it’s grey and raining. The weather can’t seem to make up its mind which feels a lot like life at the moment.
It was 2014 and from the outside looking in I had the perfect life. A high-flying corporate executive at a global giant, a beautiful home with a white picket fence, a husband and a small child, a couple of European cars in the driveway, international travel… I wanted for nothing but I longed for a different life.
Have you noticed a shift in yourself? An uncontrollable urge to fill the spare minutes you have, picking up your device and scrolling the news or social media only to find yourself at the end of the day feeling flat and with a To Do List that remains undone?
There’s an internal battle going on, it's the resistance between the unrealistic expectations of what we feel we should be doing (based on the way life used to be) and creating the space to pave a new path.
If I asked you to reflect back over the past months and write down what hasn’t worked out for you, what would your list look like? I’m guessing it may be long, sprinkled with a little discomfort and perhaps an unwillingness to share publicly.
Mother nature has forced our hand gifting us a moment of inflection that is long overdue. We find ourselves at a decision point that will shape history, one that requires us to consider a fundamentally different future, a future that puts Humans First. Our very survival depends on it.
If you feel like the world has gone mad I doubt you are alone. Is it any wonder when a quick search of any major publication in the world will find your computer screen screaming at you don’t touch anyone, stock up on essentials, lock yourself away, the recession is unavoidable, prepare for the worst. Fear is everywhere and it’s fucking with us. We challenge you don’t let it!
What if the happiness we seek is not found in focusing on the wanting for what we don't have, but on the other side of the things we avoid? I put this question to the test myself, and this is what happened.
I pride myself on seeing things through, my word is part of who I am, so when I say I’m going to do something, I follow through. However, I have a confession to make, I recently quit what could be perceived as one of the most amazing opportunities I’ve had.
Last week I started full time for eight weeks in the first Australian Antler Cohort in Sydney. Antler is an incubator program that focuses on creating the next wave of tech companies.They had over 1000 applicants but accepted only 71 amazing humans of which I was fortunate enough to be one. Some may consider this a success but at the end of week one, I found myself questioning if this is success, why do I feel so uncomfortable?
Adventure is defined as ‘an unusual, exciting or daring experience’, I figured that was exactly what we needed from a place like Nepal. Having never been there I thought to myself, why not tack on a 7-day, 120-kilometre trek through the Himalayas to Annapurna Base Camp with my eight-year-old son.
With so much technology being developed to deliver greater convenience and efficiency in how we work and live, where is all the newly created space going? How are people filling it? Are we intentionally adapting or unconsciously being pulled along?
The one observation I consistently have in teaching the human skills to thrive in uncertainty is that many of us are at a loss as to what gives us meaning in life and presents a clear opportunity. This is why I’m challenging the terminology of the highly topical measure of future success AQ and relabelling it IAQ (Intentional Adaptability Quotient)
Almost three years ago I turned my life upside down in pursuit of the holy grail – HAPPINESS. I left a 16-year career as an executive, relocated a family from Perth back to Melbourne, left and 18-year relationship and started my own purpose-driven companyBKindred, all within six months. Crazy right?
When was the last time you said yes to something you didn’t want to do? For most of the people I meet, unfortunately, this is a daily practice. A practice that impacts our happiness, and our ability to live the life that we want.
I have a confession to make, I think I’m a hypocrite in the self-care space. I spend a lot of time with clients, and large groups, preaching the importance of self-care in order to create happiness in life, and yet this year my actions in this space have not lived up to my intentions.
I believe anxiety amongst professionals is growing at an alarming rate. I seek to shine a spotlight on what I perceive to be a silent crisis with the intent of provoking positive change amongst leaders.