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Work-Life Balance Myth: Balance is a destination

September 25, 2023

Work-Life Balance Myth: Balance is a destination

The pursuit of work-life balance feels like chasing an elusive mirage. 

It's a concept we all yearn for, yet one that often seems just out of reach. 

We envision it as a destination—a place where our work and personal lives exist in perfect harmony, where stress doesn’t exist. 

But what if I told you that this vision of work-life balance as a static, attainable endpoint is a myth? 

What if the secret to achieving balance lies not in reaching a final destination but in embracing the idea that balance is, above all else, a way of being?

In this article, we'll explore work-life balance, exploring why the traditional notion of equilibrium between work and personal life is a myth, and why understanding it as a way of being can bring clarity, fulfilment, and a renewed sense of purpose to our lives.

Work-Life Balance Definition 

Work-life balance is a concept that many define as the harmony between the demands and responsibilities of your job or career (work) and your personal life, including family, hobbies, health, and any other non-work related activities. 

It is believed to be about finding a sustainable arrangement that allows you to effectively manage your work commitments while also dedicating time and energy to your personal well-being and relationships. 

However, work-life balance is subjective and can vary greatly from person to person, depending on the life stage they are at and no one definition of balance is the same. 

There are a lot of myths around balance, myths that I am here to dispel in this and future articles.  

Work-Life Balance Examples 

Personally, I’ve spent many years chasing balance and a few years back discovered the harder I chased balance the more elusive it became.

When I reflect on my relationship with balance and how it has changed in the nine years since I exited my corporate career, I realise the most powerful action I took was to redefine balance on my terms by first unpacking all the limiting beliefs I had around balance.

This process has been further validated by the over 150 exhausted professional women I have interviewed (for my research) who have shared that flourishing in life for them is having balance. 

However, most of them cannot recall a time in their life when they felt balanced and if they did, they couldn’t sustain it. 

When I personally let go of what society defined as balance for me and created the space to listen to what balance had to teach me, here’s what I learnt:

  1. Balance is not a destination, it’s a way of being. You get to choose how you invite it into each day.
  2. Balance requires the embracing of surrender. Surrendering to the fact that you can’t make every aspect of your life sit in equilibrium as the term suggests. You have to select the aspects of life that are most important to you based on the stage of life you are in.
  3. Balance is found in the micro-moments. The sacred pockets of time that you create space for and place boundaries around because they are critical to living the life you want to live and showing up as the woman you want to be.
  4. Self-compassion is an essential ingredient of living balance in each day. No two days are the same and life will throw you curveballs derailing your plans. Asking yourself "how can I show myself compassion today and what would that look like" is critical to unlocking a feeling of balance.
  5. Balance is BS! As a word she infers that we can do and have it all, which just makes her feel exhausting and elusive.

But as I have mentioned, there are many myths about balance, so let me share with you one of ten myths I have discovered on my own personal journey. 

Work-Life Balance Myth #1: Balance is a destination rather than a way of being

Balance is a destination rather than a way of being. This is a myth. 

Here is the reality. Our quest for balance often finds us envisioning a specific magical destination where we’ll finally arrive with all aspects of our life operating in elusive equilibrium.

This belief does not account for nor accommodate the uncertainty and fluidity of life. 

Balance isn't a destination, it's a continuous journey of self-awareness, adaptation, and growth.

As our life changes, so does our definition of balance.

Each life stage brings a different meaning of balance.

It's the process of navigating the unexpected and the uncertain that brings us towards harmony. 

Work-life Balance Strategies

Journal on the myth: “Balance is a destination rather than a way of being” and see what comes up for you. 

Ask yourself: “how this knowledge impacts the expectation I have of myself when it comes to chasing balance”. 

“How might I use this information to start to redefine balance for me in a way that invites more harmony into my days?”

Final thoughts 

The key points from this article include: 

  • What is work-life balance - the definition  
  • Work-life balance example 
  • The #1 of #10 myth of balance 
  • The strategies to help with work-life balance  

Go deeper into dispelling the “Top 5 myths of Balance”. Listen to episode 103 of The Hacking Happy Podcast. 

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